My hair isn't cooperative.... I used to have long silky hair when I was young, but now I have thick hair ?

I need help grow fast and silky for an emo look I want please help I don't want this disgusting thick hair. Any gel, treatment or procedure I need to take to do this.. AND NO THAT YOUR HAIR, EVERY HAIR IS DIFFERENT CRAP!!!! MY BROTHER HAD HAIR LIKE MINE WHEN HE WAS YOUNG...HE CAN DO THE EMO HAIR (HE DOES NOW) AND I CAN'T....