HAIR CONDITIONER HELP?!?!?

My hair has been giving me a TON of problems. I have oily thick brown hair and I need to shower ever morning. First I shampoo and it gets rid of the oils and thats fine. The problems come when I condition once or twice and sure the hair looks good at first but then during the day it dries out and gets rlly puffy and curly. I am male and live in New Jersey in the USA. I have tried so many different conditioners. What must I do to get soft silky hair and not dry puffy curly hair? Pleaasseee help.